John 15:14
Introduction
In a world of titles and accolades, there is none higher than this: “the friend of God.” Scripture bestows this rare description upon Abraham, and it stands as one of the highest honors a human being can receive. “And the Scripture was fulfilled which says, ‘And Abraham believed God, and it was credited to him as righteousness,’ and he was called a friend of God” (James 2:23). To be counted not merely as a servant, but as a friend—intimate, trusted, devoted—is to be in the closest fellowship with the Creator.
This isn’t about sentiment. It’s about substance. God does not call people His friends lightly. Friendship with God is not about feelings—it’s about faith, obedience, and transformation. Jesus said, “You are My friends if you do what I command you” (John 15:14). In this study, we will walk through six defining traits of Abraham’s relationship with God and ask ourselves whether those same traits are present in us. Can we truly say we are living as God’s friends?
1. Faithful
Abraham’s journey begins with faith. Hebrews 11:8 says, “By faith Abraham, when he was called, obeyed by going out to a place which he was to receive for an inheritance; and he left, not knowing where he was going.” He trusted God’s word over human logic. He obeyed, even when the outcome wasn’t visible.
Faith is not just belief—it is trust that moves. It is confidence that acts. The test of faith comes in obedience. Abraham’s entire life was shaped by this unwavering trust in God’s promises, even when fulfillment seemed impossible. Romans 4:20–21 says, “Yet, with respect to the promise of God, he did not waver in unbelief but grew strong in faith, giving glory to God.” That’s the kind of trust that earns the name “friend.”
2. Prompt
Abraham didn’t obey eventually—he obeyed immediately. Genesis 22:3 says, “So Abraham got up early in the morning and saddled his donkey…” after God asked him to sacrifice Isaac. That act of obedience defied every natural instinct, yet he acted without delay.
Prompt obedience is a mark of deep reverence. Many delay action until the moment feels right, or their fear subsides, or they feel more prepared. Abraham teaches us that friendship with God means trusting Him enough to act now. Delayed obedience is often just disobedience in disguise.
3. Devoted
Abraham’s relationship with God wasn’t casual or occasional—it was constant. We find him regularly building altars, stopping to worship, and prioritizing God above all. Genesis 12:8 says, “He built an altar to the Lord and called upon the name of the Lord.”
True devotion isn’t only about private feeling but about public pattern. Abraham’s worship shaped his days, his home, and his decisions. If we are God’s friends, our daily lives must reflect that closeness. We need to create space for God—in our homes, in our calendars, and in our closest relationships.
4. Peaceful
Genesis 13 records a dispute between Abraham’s herdsmen and Lot’s. Abraham’s response is both humble and wise: “Please, let there be no strife between you and me… if you choose the left, then I will go to the right” (Genesis 13:8–9). He was a man of peace.
Being a friend of God changes how we treat people. Jesus said, “Blessed are the peacemakers, for they will be called sons of God” (Matthew 5:9). Romans 12:18 commands, “If possible, so far as it depends on you, be at peace with all people.” We don’t chase conflict. We don’t cling to grudges. We lead with peace.
5. Hospitable
One of the most striking images of Abraham’s character is in Genesis 18, where he welcomes three strangers, prepares a meal, and serves them personally. He didn’t know they were divine visitors, yet he treated them with honor.
Romans 12:13 urges believers to be “contributing to the needs of the saints, practicing hospitality.” Hebrews 13:2 reminds us, “Do not neglect hospitality to strangers, for by this some have entertained angels without knowing it.” Hospitality is not an option for Christians—it is a reflection of God’s open arms. Abraham didn’t wait for convenience—he made time and space for others. So must we.
6. Unselfish
When God revealed to Abraham that He was going to destroy Sodom and Gomorrah, Abraham didn’t celebrate judgment—he pleaded for mercy. “Will You indeed sweep away the righteous with the wicked?” he asked (Genesis 18:23). He negotiated for the cities with deep concern, counting down from fifty to ten in a heart-wrenching plea.
Abraham wasn’t just a man of personal piety—he was a man of deep compassion. He cared about others, even the unrighteous. In a self-centered world, this trait stands out. Philippians 2:4 says, “Do not merely look out for your own personal interests, but also for the interests of others.” Friends of God are never indifferent to the souls around them. We must care. We must intercede. We must plead.
Conclusion
To be called “the friend of God” is not just a compliment—it is a calling. Abraham’s faith, promptness, devotion, peacefulness, hospitality, and unselfishness weren’t just admirable traits. They were the fruit of deep trust in God and total surrender to His will. That is the standard.
Jesus said, “You are My friends if you do what I command you” (John 15:14). Friendship with God is not casual. It requires obedience, transformation, and commitment. It must shape our days, our decisions, and our desires.
So ask yourself—are you living like a friend of God? Does your faith act? Does your obedience come quickly? Are you offering your life in worship, making peace, showing hospitality, and pleading for souls?
God is still looking for friends. May He find one in you.
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